tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34260935324737583922024-02-20T21:52:32.750-08:00Financial Eldercare Abuse ObservedA wife's observation of the financial mess her sister in law made for "caring" for her mother in law.Marihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12378722789147387229noreply@blogger.comBlogger64125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3426093532473758392.post-6688604762691100842020-02-10T07:12:00.000-08:002020-02-10T07:12:03.174-08:00Well this is a nice excuse to get out of jury dutyThere is a court case, and I'm going to publish this after the estimated end, where a home heath aid is accused of stealing money from an old person. I don't know the details except, this experience here, was a reason I could not serve on the jury.<br />
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I've served on a federal grand jury for 18 months. That was informative. And there was no way I could have gotten out of that. And I served on a petite jury for a case involving a Latino guy whacking a bunch of other Latino guys with a machete. That was worse. It was in Spanish and English, and I would not wish that kind of experience on anyone. It was hella boring. I got removed from the jury pool once because I knew too much about a factor in the trial.<br />
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So with that experience I was hoping there was something that would help me out of this jury pool. The judge asked 12 questions and we were to write down the number if the answer to the question was yes. Did I know the lawyers or the defendant or the judge? No. Did I have a family member who was in jail? Yes. There are a lot of people on my dad's side with problems. Then the judge mentioned the substance of the case and asked if any member of my family experienced something similar.<br />
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Later, because there were 40 people in the pool, and those of us with higher numbers were allowed to go out for 45 minutes, I was called up to the bench. The judge asked me about the questions I answered yes to. The first one was no biggie and he dismissed that. The second one... I mentioned what happened with Carol and Sonya. I mentioned this blog. I mentioned the stress trying to deal with it had on our marriage. When he restated what I said he made Sonya the focus, and I countered him, and pointed out my mother in law was the victim and this led to her early death. So to the question did I think I could be impartial, the answer was no. And thus, I got out of jury duty.Marihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12378722789147387229noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3426093532473758392.post-29202850962044969482018-12-20T09:54:00.000-08:002018-12-20T09:54:32.479-08:00Oh look what I found under the tree, forgivenessI was on my way to deal with a problem in another city, when it dawned on me that I believe I have forgiven Sonya.<br />
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Forgiveness is not forgetting.<br />
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Love the sinner, hate the sin. What she did was horrible. But she herself is deserving of forgiveness. We can blame it on her mental health. We can blame it on her season of life. She can be redeemed.<br />
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So what does that mean now? Well this site is not going away. As I said, forgiveness isn't forgetting. It this site can help someone else who may be in the same boat, then hopefully they too can see the warning signs and do what needs to be done before they are forced to let their relative become a ward of the state or become conservator. Both are bad. There are still other relatives who could be abused by Sonya, pretending this never happened could come to harm them.<br />
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It means I'm not going to seek harm to Sonya. I've stopped asking Mike, her brother, to seek criminal charges against her. Years back I kept hounding him, and bugging him to file charges. He didn't then because he was busy trying to care for his mom. Now there is no interest and we all want to move on with our lives.<br />
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So we will move forward. Lawyers are f*cking expensive, but they provide a protective buffer for our family against any future abuse or claims by Sonya so we can move forward without thinking about her. Also Mike is big on the forgetting so forgiveness seems to be a part of it.<br />
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Where's Sonya? Last we heard, homeless, in a vehicle with no money in Oregon or Washington State. She may have made it back to California. She had requested the phone number of a relative who lived in Oregon and Mike, without thinking, gave her the number. When he told me, I told him he should give the relative a heads up. So he called the relative, left a message, a very vague message that Sonya was experiencing some trouble but not saying what. Sigh.<br />
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Anyway, on ward and forward.Marihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12378722789147387229noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3426093532473758392.post-87544422184622014452018-06-15T16:30:00.000-07:002018-06-15T16:30:03.449-07:00CalSTRS not helpfulIf you become the conservator or have (power of attorney) POA for a person who is getting a California Teacher's pension (<a href="https://www.calstrs.com/" target="_blank">CalSTRS</a>), you may find them horribly unhelpful.<br />
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On one level being slow and hard to reach in some way could protect members from abuse. But it made it very difficult when Mike, who became conservator for his mother Carol, was trying to get her pension to go into a conservatorship account, as opposed to a compromised account. Sonya, the daughter who had financially abused the mother Carol, had closed the account Carol had and where her pension was being deposited, and opened a new account. As far as I can tell Sonya did not inform CalSTRS and there was some confusion of where the pension was going. When Mike became conservator there was some problem getting CalSTRS to recognize him as conservator.<br />
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Once they finally recognized Mike as the conservator of Carol who was a member of CalSTRS, they told him they needed a whole pay period before they could have the direct deposit going into the new account. Mike turned into the paperwork and waited for a month for the pension payment to appear so he could pay for his mother's care. Unfortunately, CalSTRS did not feel a rush to tell him that there was something missing in his paperwork. So when the date when her pension was to appear passed, he had to inquire with the bank then CalSTRS and discovered that there was missing information and had to wait another month for the pension payment.<br />
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Mike's interactions with CalSTRS when he needed to inquire about something was like pulling teeth. My heart goes out to any caregiver of a CalSTRS member. It seemed CalSTRS only frame of reference might have been the POA. When I inquired on my husband's behalf, because the whole trying to care for his mother thing was overwhelming, I didn't get anything other than an automated response.... if that.<br />
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The website is only for members. Not caregivers acting on their behalf. We asked. They will not allow for the conservator to take over.<br />
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When you look at the CalSTRS website the only thing they have about abuse, which Carol was a victim of, it is only about <a href="https://www.calstrs.com/pension-abuse-reporting" target="_blank">members abusing CalSTRS</a>, as if members can only be perpetrators not victims.<br />
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So it appears that CalSTRS has the mindset that members will be fully mentally functional and independent. So it becomes part of the nightmare when a child of a member or a caregiver who comes in blind has to try to figure out where to start.<br />
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CalSTRS Not Helpful</h4>
We found CalSTRS not particularly helpful. Maybe in all the encounters with CalSTRS maybe one person tried to be helpful and understand my husband's situation in trying to care for his mom 3000 miles away. I'm sure if he were in California it would have been a little less stressful.<br />
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Lastly, let me end with a positive. Those CalSTRS payments were very generous. Carol's pension was a little less than my take home pay as a full time Federal worker, and more than what my husband makes per month. That amount of money was very helpful in making it possible to stretch out what was left to pay for better end of life care for Carol.Marihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12378722789147387229noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3426093532473758392.post-88188201220833588942018-06-11T18:46:00.000-07:002018-06-11T18:46:29.873-07:00Lies about access and screwing the landlordI'm a landlady so re-reading these texts from Sonya to Mike looks like a word salad of BS as she talks about finally leaving the house she rented with their mother's money. I gather it was dawning on her that at some point the social workers from Adult Protective Services would be right and the account she had access to would be frozen and her ability to use the money to maintain the lifestyle of which she was accustomed to, but not accustomed to funding, would be gone.<br />
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The lease was supposed to end in April. But she, despite her brother Mike asking her to just let the year lease end, decided she was going to continue to live there. And live off her mother's money without the bother of caring for their mother.<br />
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Without much further ado, here are the texts. Compare them to the spending that occurred in <a href="http://anelderabuseobserved.blogspot.com/2018/05/may-2016-end-of-sonyas-spending-party.html" target="_blank">May</a>, by looking at the statements there.<br />
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<span style="font-family: "Helvetica Neue",Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: small;">This Sunday was my monthly visit to my husband's church and the sermon topic was taken from Matthew 18:21-35; Romans 12: 9-21; Colossians 3:13, forgiveness. Sonya, my sister in law, did something horrible. She stole and she lied. She inadvertently placed a burden on her brother, because conservatorships are a huge expensive PITA, that constantly set him up for failure. Eldercare abuse takes years off of the victims and in my eyes her actions killed her mother. I also know that I will forgive her. This was the sermon I needed to hear.</span></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "Helvetica Neue",Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: small;">First the pastor defined what forgiveness was not. <b>It is not forgetting</b>. As long as we can remember this episode we will remember. However, my husband is taking on my aunt's (and mother's) habit of 'selective memory' as a coping mechanism. I remember too much. <b>It is not denying pain</b>. And there is pain. Some of the pain is part of the lies told by Sonya regarding other things, such as her children's custody. I can attest to the financial pain. We used funds from our emergency fund to pay for the lawyers for the conservatorship. Money set aside to cover our mortgage was taken to pay for my mother in law's medications. My mother in law, like my husband, can get some things very close to the vest, but there were hints that she was hurt by her daughter Sonya, and probably felt betrayed. <b>Forgiveness is not denying there are consequences</b>. Pardon is optional. It seems my husband has given Sonya pardon by not pursuing pressing charges against her as the conservator of his mother and her estate. I highly doubt he will before the statute of limitations runs out. His mother is dead. The credit bureaus, Social Security, Kaiser Mid-Atlantic, the bank, CalSTRs, and everyone who needed to know, have been informed she is dead. Her death was a consequence of what her daughter did. The money Sonya spent on trips to Wal-Mart and Ubers for her son, was not there to fix her mother's teeth, That would have been $8,000. The money used to support Sonya and her lifestyle was not there to allow her brother to place their mother back at the Atria, and thus she had to rot in the cheapest accommodation in San Jose, where there was nothing left to do but wait for death and watch TV. <b>Forgiveness does not mean you have to trust the person</b>. Loss of trust was another consequence of this whole episode and it unfortunately globed on to other people. Most of the time my husband is a very trusting guy, maybe too trusting. He does not trust his sister, There are some other family members who were bit players, and innocents who are seen with a bit of distrust as well. He's not sure if they are in league with or under the influence of Sonya. And there are those we know weren't siding with Sonya and were also hurt by her, that my husband is not too sure of either. I don't like this side of him, it makes him seem paranoid. We don't trust Sonya, she has lied too much.<b> Forgiveness does not mean you have to like the person</b>. Jesus calls us to love our enemies. Love meaning wanting the best for them. We want Sonya to get the professional mental health services she needs, and we want her to stick with a good program. We want her to keep a job and serve her clients by being dependable. We want her to marry someone who can help provide stability for her remaining minor child, or at least learn to love herself and not feel that she needs a man around. Lastly,<b> forgiveness does not mean you throw out justice</b>. An injustice was done. A woman who trusted her daughter to care for her, gave that daughter access to her nest egg and made herself vulnerable. That daughter took advantage and has not been made to answer for the crime of financial elder abuse. That sense of injustice is why I wrote this blog, Financial Eldercare Abuse Observed.</span></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "Helvetica Neue",Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: small;">But then what is forgiveness? <b>Forgiveness is letting go of the anger and bitterness</b>. This is slowly happening. It happens with my husband because of that 'selective memory'. By going over the financials, I think it is getting out of my system. Sonya is more than likely homeless, due to her mental illness and inability to support herself, I can't really punish her more than what life has already done. <b>Forgiveness is not bringing it up again</b>. We are commanded to stop treating the person like they still owe the debt. She couldn't pay the debt even if she got her life together and if by some crazy miracle she got a million dollars, who would she pay the debt to? The victim is dead. We can't un-cremate my mother in law and bring her back to life with all the money in the world. <b>Forgiveness is giving G-d the ultimate vengeance</b>. We are all sinners. I believe Sonya will have to answer to the Father, even if she doesn't believe in him. There is another point but it doesn't fit neatly so I'm leaving it off.</span></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "Helvetica Neue",Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: small;">Jesus has forgiven us for the heap of sin we placed on him and that he washed away with his blood. Like the servant in Matthew 18, we owe a huge debt that we could never repay* and it has been forgiven. We can stand to forgive others who, comparatively owe us a smaller debt. I will forgive Sonya as we continue to clean up the mess she made and the damage done. </span></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "Helvetica Neue",Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: small;">*Debt is one way of seeing it, trespass is another, but let's go with debt since we're hanging with the Presbyterians. </span></span>Marihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12378722789147387229noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3426093532473758392.post-15805524998281472802018-06-04T19:29:00.000-07:002018-06-04T19:29:08.729-07:00Let's compare Februarys 2016 vs 2017I know I said I was going to go over August to December 2016 under the conservatorship but I think with this post I will have made my point about the financial abuse and I'll turn to the lies and mistreatment by the abusing adult child towards their mother, brother and step mother. I wrote this blog to vent my frustrations. I know that at some point I will forgive Sonya for what she did to her mother, but I need to work this out of my system.<br />
So let's look at just page 1 from Carol's account when Sonya, her daughter and the one with the POA, in February 2016.<br />
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And compare that with page 1 from the Conservatorship under Mike, Sonya's brother, and the son of the victim, Carol.<br />
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Mike did not use his mother's account to fix his 2001 car. Mike did not use it to let me ride around in Ubers. There were eight withdrawals. One and two were on Feb 6th for Dr. Wong, Carol's doctor. That check was for $361.00 but the total charge was $368.50, so $7.50 for a cashier's check? Man, that is cheap for a cashier's check, Wells Fargo charged me something like $20 for a cashier's check. Three and four were the charges of $23.75 from the Riverdale, MD post office, to FedEx something to Kirkwood Villa on the 26th and 28th. This is where I will criticize Mike. He doesn't think holistically or look too far ahead, which is where there will be inefficiencies in his dealings. A mailing that late in the month is probably for rent for Kirkwood Villa and maybe reimbursement for medications. To be fair, he found communicating with Rose, the woman who ran Kirkwood, difficult to understand and everything was a crisis that had to be dealt with, with a grand gesture. For some odd reason it did not occur to him to have automatic payments...... He just doesn't think that way, that's why I am in charge of the finances in our house.<br />
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I accounted for 4 of the 8 withdrawals. Four checks were written. One was for $3,300, that was for Kirkwood Villa. I'd have to hunt down Mike's register but I'd bet they were for medicines and services for Carol. I can't remember if this was another period where Carol lost her Medicare part whatever because the Medicare people weren't sending anything to Mike. It will take me a while to get that memory from Mike because it was so frustrating and traumatizing to him. Let's just say he knows the 1-800 number for Social Security by heart. ...digressed again... So Mike was using CVS's scripts service to get medications mailed to his mother and would pay by check. Okay another complaint about my beloved, if there is a quick and easy way, or a hard and complicated way, he'd pick hard and complicated.<br />
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So the first with the charges for Ubers and Wal-mart is NOT how to care for an elderly family member's accounts. The second IS reflective of how you care for them and their finances. You use their money to help them, to make sure their rent shows up by the 1st so they don't get kicked out. So you use their money for postage.Marihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12378722789147387229noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3426093532473758392.post-48454533989152564942018-06-04T16:57:00.000-07:002018-06-04T16:57:03.170-07:00Very Conservative Conservatorship- Or sort of how it should have been done June-July 2016Looking at the conservatorship account and the spending there, it is a complete swing of the pendulum from spending like a crazy person to barely spending at all.<br />
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Instead of republishing the bank statements, which are somewhere, I just exported the data, removed some identifying information and put it in an Excel spreadsheet.<br />
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In two months, there are seven transactions. Under Sonya she would have had seven transactions in about 2 days. To be slightly fair June was sort of a wash because Mike, the son of the victim, was still having trouble communicating to the bank. Earlier that month he had to beg the staff to send a check on Carol, his mother and the victim, to Kirkwood Villa to pay for the June rent. July was also messy as CalSTRs weren't sending Carol's pension to the new account yet.<br />
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A lot you don't see here is the money Mike and I spent in regards to Carol from our own accounts. We'd already dipped into our savings for about $7000 for a retainer fee for the lawyers to make the conservatorship happen. When Mike did get access to his mother's funds, or what little was left after Sonya devoured their mother's retirement savings, he had to deal with the first health crises of his conservatorship, trying to get diabetes medicine to his mother who just lost her Medicare prescription parts. We were very willing to spend our own money to try to get her the medication she needed.<br />
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So let's review July 2016<br />
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July 1st there is a withdrawal of $3,300 via check #101. That was for Carol's stay at Kirkwood Villa. July 7th, there was a transfer of $3085.98 from one of Carol's accounts. I will guess it is from the frozen account that Sonya, prior to the freeze had access. It looks like it is the CalSTRs pension money. I do remember we were very anxious about transferring that as quickly as possible so Sonya would not be able to get her hands on any more of Carol's money. July 31st the bank charged a service fee of $6 and provided a dividend of zilch.<br />
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Because Mike wanted to make sure he was following the rules, he barely spent any money. By 2017 he learned to spend a little bit more, splurging for a nurse/companion to take Carol out on day trips and to the doctor, so she wouldn't be stuck inside all week. The problem was that Carol's pension of about $3000 a month did not cover her stay at Kirkwood Villa which was $3300 a month, about a $300 a month difference. This doesn't even begin to cover her medical bills. Going back to the $10,000 Sonya took for Child Support, that could have covered the deficit for several years. Thankfully, Sonya did not get all the savings, there was still a little something left in the investment account and there was this pesky other investment that we couldn't figure out what the heck it was. Thankfully, neither could Sonya.<br />
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This was more of the right way. Funds under the conservatorship were spent to care for Carol. Finds should not to cover Uber trips for teenagers or supplies for the POA's business ventures.Marihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12378722789147387229noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3426093532473758392.post-20946315512438930672018-06-04T00:00:00.000-07:002018-06-04T00:00:03.099-07:00Steal from your mother to pay child support April-May 2016 part 3Please see <a href="http://anelderabuseobserved.blogspot.com/2018/06/steal-from-your-mother-to-pay-child.html" target="_blank">parts 1 </a>and <a href="http://anelderabuseobserved.blogspot.com/2018/06/steal-from-your-mother-to-pay-child_3.html" target="_blank">2</a>. <br />
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In it I asked, "Why is a 73 year old woman living in a senior home paying child support??" and "Did Carole get to ride in the Ubers? Did she make calls to people in prison? She paid for it. And moving money isn't fooling anyone. If you can prove that the money isn't fooling anyone. If you can prove that the money you spent on yourself and your kids is from money you made and not just spending down your mother's retirement, I'll eat crow. You squandered your mother's retirement nest egg. Her health has suffered as a result, When she dies, part of it will be your fault."<br />
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Up until then I had held my tongue, and just said there was a rift between brother and sister. I had mentioned this to Kay and maybe Mike1, Sonya's sons. But as I said, I was on parental leave with Mike2 and maybe had too much time on my hands. Mike2 was a 3 month old at this time so, I was running on no sleep so I was weak. However, my sense of justice is still annoyed that she was able to get away with doing this to the woman who raised her.<br />
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<i>"Well finally some communication and yes, I see your point. Now I am able to explain these things. I will show my bank statement for US Bank that shows that $10,000 from child support was levied out of the account and I got $8,500 from my tax return, that was paid to them, so ultimately, $1,500 was her money.</i>"</div>
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Okay, I'm a Humanities major so I don't do math all that well, but this is BS. If she had her own bank account why wasn't she <a href="http://anelderabuseobserved.blogspot.com/2018/05/november-2015.html" target="_blank">using that for the medical weed and the cigarettes</a>? I doubt such an account exists. Regardless of how much Sonya got from her tax return, the $10,000 was all Carol's money, not $1,500. Sonya should not have been mixing her own spending with her mother's account. She abused her role as POA.</div>
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"<i>and I will talk about me moving and breaking the lease in 14 days from March 2016 when he had the conservatorship freeze the accounts. I had days to pay the rent or quit. I was left destitute having to move with the kids and there was no explanation as the what the Hell was going on.</i>"</div>
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She decides to switch the topic. She also has mistaken me for her brother Mike, and thinks I can be guilt tripped. She has since discovered she can't manipulate me, and has asked Mike to keep me out of the loop and asked me never to contact her. The situation she is talking about here is something I like to point out to Mike to show him there was nothing he could have done to stop his sister from becoming the POA and ruining their mother's life. The lease for the house she rented for their mother was supposed to end either in late March or April. Sonya got it in her head that she could continue to rent the place. Mike asked her to let the lease end, and of course, she ignored him. There was no reason why Carol, the mother and real victim here, should have had to pay for a house that was in better condition than the place she was living in, and pay for the room where Carol was living. </div>
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During this time the <a href="https://www.sccgov.org/sites/ssa/daas/aps/Pages/aps.aspx" target="_blank">Santa Clara Adult Protective services</a> social workers were probably telling her that the accounts were frozen in <a href="http://anelderabuseobserved.blogspot.com/2018/05/march-2016.html" target="_blank">March</a> and <a href="http://anelderabuseobserved.blogspot.com/2018/05/april-2016-still-spending.html" target="_blank">April</a>. Looking at the bank statements, it doesn't matter because there are more than 6 pages of spending for those months. And the credit union, which I'll call the bank for simplicity's sake, did not freeze the account until the 1st of June. And Mike didn't get any sort of conservatorship powers until May, and even then a lot of places kind of ignored it.</div>
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Hi, I'm Mike's wife and <a href="https://anelderabuseobserved.blogspot.com/" target="_blank">this blog </a>is about how Sonya abused her mother. I gather the bank and later the social workers at Kaiser tipped them off. Sadly, nobody arrested Sonya.</div>
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What stopped the investigation was Mike becoming the conservator in order to save his sister from going to jail. Mike is horribly loyal, sometimes for the wrong reasons, and that's why it has been so frustratingly hard for me to get him to file charges. To my knowledge she was never brought to court so no one has found her innocent.</div>
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"<i>My business was on the brink. I had just opened the doors not even a month , which was going to pay all the money back, but unfortunately Michael chose to read without question and make me out to be this bad person. I have an answer to all these and it's all very long, involved and many intricate details...</i>"</div>
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"<i><b>I will not accept that I spent all my mom's savings</b>, that's absolute bullsh!t. And he has no idea of how it is to be on the frontlines to care for her, my 3 kids, and 6 student interns, as well as a plethora of clients to be shut down at a screeching halt. There was more to the story than the account and I was never asked or talked to or concerned with an alternative route so we would all be ok</i>."</div>
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Denial, denial denial, then me, me, me. Obfuscate, obfuscate, obfuscate. One of those 3 kids is a grown man in college. As far as never being asked, Mike could never get a word in, so he never had an opportunity to ask and even if he did, Sonya would probably lie to him, like she did about the child support.</div>
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"<i>My mom was forced to short sell her house in three days by Gene only getting about $500,000.00 when her house was worth $700-$800,000. Then she was forced to move into a senior community costing $7000 a month for two years. Anyway he can blame me, but how cowardly of him, when he didn't lift a finger to actually care for her a day in his life. As for him saying it will be my fault for her death, I will say the same about him.</i>"</div>
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According to Redfin.com, on December 5th the house was listed for sale for $545,000, it was under contract on the 11th and sold January 15, 2014 for $552,000. It's kind of hard for me to find comps for that area for 2014 in 2018. Yes, now houses are going for $700-$800K, but I did manage to find another house in the area selling in January 2016 for $625K. The house across the street sold in the Summer of <a href="https://www.redfin.com/CA/San-Jose/4774-Lyric-Ln-95111/home/1768930" target="_blank">2010 for $350K</a>. Carol and Gene had to sell because they kept falling in the driveway and having to call 911 to pick them up. Gene was a double amputee with a big a$$ truck. Because they were married the house belonged to both of them. Doesn't matter that it was Sonya and Mike's childhood home. The kids did not own the house.</div>
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Carol and Gene had to move into a senior community for their health. There was the constant falling because they were on a steep hill. Carol had worsening Parkinson's in addition to her Diabetes Type 1. Gene was also diabetic, with anger management issues. Senior care costs money. Sonya had complained about the last place Carol lived, nickle and diming their mother. No that was for services rendered! But all Sonya probably could see was money she wrongfully thought was hers slipping away. </div>
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Then she ends with another guilt bomb. The family dynamics at play here did not lend themselves to Mike doing more for his mother until the conservatorship. While Carol was married to Gene, Mike could just call his mother and have annual visits. Gene was a miserable old bastard and very untrusting. Carol was vague. Mike and Carol's phone and in person conversations (that I witnessed) had the depth of a thimble. Sonya and Gene hated each other. Mike tries to be the peacemaker, he didn't care for Gene but usually tried to be nice to him. Mike also respected the fact that his mother was married to Gene and there are things in a marriage that make the wishes of the adult children secondary. Gene had only been dead a month before Sonya became their mother's POA.</div>
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Never got any documentation... probably because there is none. Yes, these claims that we have with hundred's of pages of bank statements, the court investigator's report, and conflicting messages, all irrational.... This is why I fear for N Kim's (the little girl) safety. I want to reach out to her father because a woman who would deny the facts in front of her when presented would also be in denial if one of her loser boyfriends harmed that little girl. I will sleep on in. Next month, if I feel this way, I will.</div>
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"<i>I did my best I could without having much opportunity to work and make an income. Even the law pays a family member to care for family, but because she was a teacher and didn't pay into Social Security, she was not eligible for those types of services. How was I supposed to care full time with no income.</i>"</div>
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She could have left well enough alone, and allowed Carol to stay at the <a href="https://www.atriaseniorliving.com/retirement-communities/atria-willow-glen-san-jose-ca/" target="_blank">Atria</a>. But no, she decided to take her mother out of the hands of professionals and DIY it. There might be a program that provides some money for <a href="https://www.caregiver.org/medi-cal" target="_blank">family members who care for other family members</a>. That was probably though MediCal. Because of the generous pension Carol had, I don't know if she would have qualified. I was under the impression that it was Medi-Cal or Medicare that was providing the nurse who came in to care Carol... before Sonya threw her son across the room and frightened the nurse away.</div>
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Did Sonya do her best? Maybe the best that a chronically unemployed chronic enthusiast with anger management and other mental health issues who dropped out of school could manage. But even if she wasn't a crazy stoner high school drop out, the way she saw her mother, and brother as ATMs that she could use, would have resulted in the same way. We thought it was mismanagement, it was greed.</div>
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So there we have it. Sonya only admits letting her teenage son have access to his grandmother's money was bad. But stealing her mother's money for child support and other things, she's in complete denial. There is no point confronting her with this unless I can convince (she's not the only one in the family who plays the denial game) her brother, to file charges. She cannot repay what she stole. Sonya has a negative net worth. She is no good at making money. Last we heard, she was homeless. I highly suspect Carol was providing Sonya with financial help well before the sale of the house and the moves to senior housing. The spigot has been turned off and Sonya is now forced with having to figure out how to live after burning (no, exploding) all her bridges.</div>
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In an effort to keep this simple I am not going to reprint the a couple year's worth of Facebook messages. I will sum them up because Sonya's messages to her brother are lengthy. Also at a point Mike, the brother of Sonya and the son of the victim Carol, stops communicating via Facebook and I'm the one managing his Facebook page.<br />
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Mike became conservator of his mother in the Summer of 2016 and began the difficult task of trying to care for her 3000 miles away. July 15, 2016 Sonya sent a short message asking for help with rent. This was a month after she was cut off from her mother's funds. Mike responded that day that we could not help her as we were dipping into our savings to deal with Carol's various health crises, part of which was caused by Sonya not making sure Medicare and Kaiser were paid. By that time we had dipped into savings to pay for lawyers and a bond, along with the other things Carol needed. December 2016, Mike sent a FB message to Sonya asking her to see their mother. Apparently, she had their mother hang out with some of Sonya's friends from DC.<br />
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August 8, 2017 Mike sent a FB message telling Sonya he was taking their mom out of California to care for her. Sonya hadn't been visiting their mother on any regular basis, and as usual Sonya's phone number had changed and Mike had no way of reaching her. Mike contacted Sonya's ex who gave a number but we're not sure if it was valid. August came and went and Mike brought Carol to live at Independence Court in Hyattsville, MD. Mike visited at least once or twice a week.<br />
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October 15, 2017 Sonya contacted Mike via FB messenger asking for money on behalf of her son Mike1. By this time Mike was fully aware of the lies Sonya had told and did not trust this. Mike did not respond so this was followed by a long rant from Sonya trying to send Mike on another guilt trip. This was followed by three audio recordings of Sonya, Mike1 and Rocci, where Sonya claimed Rocci was verbally abusing the teenage son Mike1. I only listened to two of the recordings. Everyone is horrible. She then sends another message telling Mike never to contact her or her kids.<br />
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By December 2017 Mike gave up on FB because our friends can get too political. I updated it from time to time to keep the people at Mike's church updated with Carol's health so they could pray for them. That's when I caught a message Sonya sent, all apologetic and sweet. I responded, letting her know it was me, and I'd pass it on to Mike. She did not care for me acting as a filter between her and her brother and mother. That same day, mean nasty Sonya was back. She set off my own mean streak, so in between updating her about her mom's health, I also egged her on. I'm going to blame being bored and being stuck home with a new baby (Mike2). So here is the exchange.<br />
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In part 3 I'll go over this last part.Marihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12378722789147387229noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3426093532473758392.post-38369063116244354462018-06-02T00:30:00.000-07:002018-06-03T17:38:03.580-07:00Steal from your mother to pay child support April-May 2016 part 1If I want to get my husband Mike's blood boiling I will bring up this incident, where his sister Sonya, who was the POA for their mother Carol, stole $10,000 to pay for back child support. I'm not a master manipulator like Sonya, so although it temporarily riles him, he goes back to his normal self and forgets the whole thing and treats his sister as a decent human, not the piece of trash that she has become.<br />
So in <a href="http://anelderabuseobserved.blogspot.com/2018/05/april-2016-still-spending.html" target="_blank">April 2016</a> Sonya transferred $10,160.26 to another account under her mother's name.<br />
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The next month on May 11, 2016, there was a charge of exactly $10,160.26 for CHILD SUPPORT COLLECTIONS.<br />
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The hold on Sonya's beautician's license that was there in March 2016 for "Family Support" had been released later.<br />
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Mike was aware that 10,000 left their mother's account but Sonya played dumb acting as if she had no idea why that money was gone.<br />
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This is long already. <a href="http://anelderabuseobserved.blogspot.com/2018/06/steal-from-your-mother-to-pay-child_3.html" target="_blank">In part 2</a>, I confront Sonya about this. You won't believe her lame answer. </div>
<br />Marihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12378722789147387229noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3426093532473758392.post-3636407864439133692018-06-01T00:00:00.000-07:002018-06-01T00:00:04.870-07:00Texts and Lies- April 15, 2016So as I've mentioned before Mike, the son of Carol who eventually became her conservator because of the financial (and who know what else) abuse by the daughter Sonya, is very loyal. Loyalty will make you believe lies. Mike also felt guilty about not being there for his sister Sonya or for his mother Carol, so Sonya could send him on a guilt trip and he'd take it.<br />
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During the time Sonya was the POA..... maybe also before, when Sonya would call Mike, it was usually a long one sided rant. In April, Mike did manage to find some steel for his spine and refuse to take his sister's calls and demand that she text. Sonya seems to have an abusive personality, and well abusers don't take well when the people they want to abuse stand up and refuse to take it.<br />
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So let me explain this exchange. So Sonya was screaming and ranting at Mike on the phone. In that rant she was complaining about how hard her life was and that she had a client with her. Mike, Mr. Thoughtful, thought, Sonya should be focused on the client and not screaming at him, so he hung up. She speaks of "everyones secrecy and lies" but that was just projecting as she was the one being secretive behind a veil of 'woe is me' and lies... .most of this blog is about her lies.<br />
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I'm not blocking the phone number because this was several phone numbers ago. She seems to go through phone numbers like drug dealers avoiding a wire tap. There is nothing stable about Sonya, not her addresses, and surely not her phone numbers.<br />
Marihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12378722789147387229noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3426093532473758392.post-26748028270342188442018-05-31T17:49:00.000-07:002018-06-03T14:13:23.623-07:00May 2016- The end of Sonya's spending partyIt wasn't until June 1st when the bank, credit union actually, finally, finally, cut Sonya off from her mother's accounts. The conservatorship wasn't wine and roses for Mike, the brother of Sonya and the son of Carol. But what it did do was end Sonya's POA over Carol, allow Mike to talk to the bank, and in the beginning get some limited access to the money in those accounts. There was a lot of back and forth with the bank in June and it was all painfully slow, and add the fact that this (finances, Medicare, elder care, the legal stuff) was not in Mike's wheelhouse.<br />
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Despite knowing the end was near, Sonya kept spending the money, her mother's money as if it were hers, which it was not, all though May 2016.<br />
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<br />Marihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12378722789147387229noreply@blogger.com0San Jose, CA, USA37.3382082 -121.8863286000000136.933999199999995 -122.53177560000002 37.7424172 -121.24088160000001tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3426093532473758392.post-25632359561433992972018-05-31T17:24:00.000-07:002018-05-31T17:49:30.844-07:00April 2016- Still spendingMike, the brother of Sonya who had POA over their mother Carol, was still in the dark in April 2016. The bank, because Mike had no legal standing at that time, was being very vague about their mother's finances. All he knew was that there was about $20,000 in the account. He was hoping to become the emergency conservator of Carol in May if not earlier, and with that money get his mother out of Kirkwood Villa and maybe back to the Atria, where she was before Sonya got her hands on their mother's money. At this point he was still believing the lie that she was simply mismanaging the funds. With Sonya no longer caring for their mother Carol, he thought that money would still be there when he took over Carol's care, he was wrong.<br />
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<br />Marihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12378722789147387229noreply@blogger.com0San Jose, CA, USA37.3382082 -121.8863286000000136.933999199999995 -122.53177560000002 37.7424172 -121.24088160000001tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3426093532473758392.post-67859537704012437412018-05-30T00:30:00.000-07:002018-05-30T00:30:03.810-07:00March 2016- Token amounts, an accidental MF'er and theories<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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In <a href="http://anelderabuseobserved.blogspot.com/2018/05/march-2016.html" target="_blank">March</a> $16,216.12 was spent. Sonya, since it appears she hadn't gotten her mother Carol's CalSTRs pension to direct deposit into this new account Sonya created at the end of December 2015, is the only one depositing. She covered about 10% of that month's spending. Little matter, because this account had Carol's money in it and Sonya was spending, squandering, her mother's retirement fund with purchases and charges that had nothing to do with the care of her mother. Of that $16K, $3300 (check #107) went to cover Carol's care at Kirkwood Villa, one of the cheapest place to dump and old woman in San Jose. But all those other charges, wasting away her mother's money and making a bad situation worse.<br />
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When Sonya closed the account in December and opened up a new one in her mother's name, it messed up a few reoccurring charges that later came to bite Mike (Carol's son & Sonya's brother) in the butt when he became their mother's conservator. Besides screwing up the CalSTRs pension, it also ended the payments to Medicare. Most people on social security, it seems, have their monthly payment taken out of their SS payments. Because Carol was on a pension and did not have SS payments her monthly Medicare payments came out of the account Sonya closed, for whatever reason. After 6 months of no payments, or as soon as Mike became the conservator in June, Carol, the diabetic with Parkinson's lost her medicare, particularly the parts that cover prescriptions and doctors visits. That was the first of many crises. Kaiser Permanente wasn't getting paid for their Medicare parts either. This endangered their mother's health. For about a week Carol was fcuked, because Mike had no clue of how to get insulin to his mom from the opposite side of the country with no Medicare. Sonya had fcuked over her mother, she thus was a motherfcuker.<br />
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At the time Mike was unaware of this in March. He thought, he believed his sister was trying to do right by their mother. He even bought her BS excuses of why she was leasing or whatever a luxury SUV. I can't find any texts from this month that are a complete sentence. But it was in this month we looked up Sonya's cosmetology license. We discovered her license was suspended due to "Family Support". She lied about that to her brother, said it was a mistake. He, wanting to make up for all the years he doubted her and other baggage issues, chose to believe her blatant lies. Folks, this is family and you'd rather believe a lie than know you're related to a horrible human being. <br />
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Looking at the March 2016 bank statement, it looks as if Sonya might have given access to the account to her teenage son, that would explain all the Uber rides and iTunes purchases. That's one theory. Another theory is that Sonya was mentally delusional and believed that this was her account, with her money. </div>
<br />Marihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12378722789147387229noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3426093532473758392.post-84262579466368008762018-05-29T17:37:00.000-07:002018-05-29T17:37:18.076-07:00March 2016These are images from the March 2016 bank statement. At this point in time Carol, the mother and victim is no longer living in the same house as Sonya, the retirement fund stealing daughter. There is no excuse for this much activity with Carol's account, considering the majority of the funds are not being spent on Carol.<br />
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<br />Marihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12378722789147387229noreply@blogger.com0San Jose, CA, USA37.3382082 -121.8863286000000136.933999199999995 -122.53177560000002 37.7424172 -121.24088160000001tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3426093532473758392.post-84225028757683171582018-05-29T16:35:00.000-07:002018-05-29T16:35:09.187-07:00The world ending option- making your parent a ward of the stateI'm going to take a break from proving what Sonya did was a horrible thing and give some advice.<br />
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The option of making your elderly parent a ward of the state is always an option, an option of last resort.<br />
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It was first presented when Adult Protective Services (APS) were asking Mike, Carol's son, my husband, to get more involved. Mike was annoyed with APS because, the way he saw it, this government agency was trying to drive a wedge between him and his sister. He didn't trust them. So their suggestion that they become the conservator of Carol was one way for Mike to step away and let the state take over. That would have been easier. That would have saved us lots of money in legal fees and bonds, stupid $1,000 and $1,500 a year, non-refunded bonds. But if this route was taken, the state would have charged Sonya (yay) for what she did but Mike would not have any input in her care and whatever assets she still had would have been seized by the state. Our concern was that APS seemed more interested in prosecuting Sonya (a good thing) than helping Carol get out of the situation she was in. So we were concerned that Carol's care would fall through the cracks, and that she would remain in the poor living conditions of Kirkwood Villa with no change.<br />
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Thankfully, Mike did not need to travel to San Jose to appear before a judge to become the conservator of his mother's person and estate. He was on a conference call sort of thing. Because of the nature of the call Mike could hear other cases. There was another case before his where the family came before the judge to explain they could no longer care for an adult relative, and wanted the state to take over. So we were very aware that if it became too much or too hard, this was an option. And it did get too hard, it damaged our marriage (has since been repaired) and it put our adoption plans on hold (we now have an adopted son), but we did not pull that trigger. There was a moment, when Carol was feeling horribly low and she suggested that Mike give up on her and let the state take over. We knew she was speaking from a place of depression. Kirkwood was just a place to watch TV and wait for the end.<br />
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Mike made many mistakes in Carol's care, mainly due to the overly complicated nature of conservatorships and being on the other side of the country... most of it being on the other side of the country. We do not regret not making Carol a ward of California. Once we got her on the east coast it got easier. There were still health crises but it was comparatively easier in Maryland compared to when these things happened in California.<br />
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The state will take whatever assets are in the person's estate and there is no inheritance for the remaining family members. Now whether those assets will be used to better the situation of the depends. In Carol's case the cost of her care was more than what she was getting from her remaining investments that Sonya didn't steal, and her pension. If she didn't die, she was going to run out of money to cover the cost of her care by this summer, and we were going to have to figure out how to cover the costs. So it is hard to imagine that the state would put her in a better facility.<br />
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The state would have also put Sonya in prison if Carol became their ward. At the time, we didn't know, what we now know, and Mike is unreasonably loyal. This whole blog is a reminder of why he should press charges against his sister. But at the time we thought she had custody of her minor children and we were concerned about what would happen with them if she was put away. The kids were already traumatized by the separation of their parents, we didn't want to add to the sorrow. Now one kid is going to college and I think the other would be better off with her biological father.<br />
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Useful Links:<br />
<a href="https://www.expertlaw.com/forums/showthread.php?t=53685" target="_blank"> Having an Adult Made Ward of the State</a>- ExpertLaw.com<br />
<a href="https://family.findlaw.com/guardianship/guardianship-of-incapacitated-or-disabled-persons.html" target="_blank">Guardianship of Incapacitated or Disabled Persons</a>- FindLaw.com <br />
<a href="https://legalbeagle.com/8217465-make-adult-ward-state.html" target="_blank">How to Make an Adult a Ward of the State</a>- LegalBeagle.com <br />
Marihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12378722789147387229noreply@blogger.com0Hyattsville, MD, USA38.9559442 -76.94553009999998538.9065592 -77.026211099999983 39.0053292 -76.864849099999986tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3426093532473758392.post-23213308468685385612018-05-25T19:59:00.000-07:002018-05-25T19:59:27.359-07:00Lies, lies and more lies- Hawaii trip<span style="font-size: small;"><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">So in <a href="http://anelderabuseobserved.blogspot.com/2018/05/january-2016-sonya-goes-to-hawaii-with.html" target="_blank">January 2016</a>, Sonya went to Hawaii and below is the text exchange she had with her brother Mike about it.</span></span><br />
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<tr><td>016-01-11 21:04:56</td><td><br /></td><td><br /></td><td>How are you doing? What is it like not having mom in the house?</td></tr>
<tr><td><br /></td><td><br /></td><td><br /></td><td>-></td><td>2016-01-13 13:49:30</td><td>Hi
it's been fine I actually took advantage of my week with no one to care
for and took a fight to Hawaii where I came to my friends house where I
am sta</td><td><br /></td><td><br /></td></tr>
<tr><td><br /></td><td><br /></td><td><br /></td><td>-></td><td>2016-01-13 13:49:31</td><td>ying I'll be returning on Saturday.. This trip has cost in total 600.00</td><td><br /></td><td><br /></td></tr>
<tr><td><br /></td><td><br /></td><td><br /></td><td>-></td><td>2016-01-13 13:49:43</td><td>Free food and lodging ..</td><td><br /></td><td><br /></td></tr>
<tr><td><br /></td><td><br /></td><td><br /></td><td><-</td><td>2016-01-13 15:21:16</td><td><br /></td><td><br /></td><td>That's great. You really deserve that rest and relaxation. Have a great time. Love , Mike </td></tr>
<tr><td><br /></td><td><br /></td><td><br /></td><td>-></td><td>2016-01-13 15:55:09</td><td>Thanks
so much! I said wait a minute <b>N Kim and Mike1</b> are going to dads....
Mom's in her new place... <b>KAY</b> back at school...??!? You mean I will
be by m</td><td><br /></td><td><br /></td></tr>
<tr><td><br /></td><td><br /></td><td><br /></td><td>-></td><td>2016-01-13 15:55:10</td><td>yself for a whole week??!!? I had to seize the moment!</td><td><br /></td><td><br /></td></tr>
<tr><td><br /></td><td><br /></td><td><br /></td><td>-></td><td>2016-01-19 22:57:39</td><td>Hi
mike I'm home and went to visit mom and she's crying that she's
miserable there... And wants to come home I think .. But where she is is
affordable an</td><td><br /></td><td><br /></td></tr>
<tr><td><br /></td><td><br /></td><td><br /></td><td>-></td><td>2016-01-19 22:57:40</td><td>d the woman is very nice... Mom is complaining of being bored and neglected.. Same thing she complained of at home with us</td><td><br /></td><td><br /></td></tr>
<tr><td><br /></td><td><br /></td><td><br /></td><td>-></td><td>2016-01-19 22:58:10</td><td>I believe it's not the people and the places... It's her situation, she's unhappy with.</td><td><br /></td><td><br /></td></tr>
<tr><td><br /></td><td><br /></td><td><br /></td><td>-></td><td>2016-01-19 23:01:41</td><td>She
being very difficult causing commotions and stirring up stuff... Crying
for attention like a child.. She acts as if she's got some medical
problem an</td><td><br /></td><td><br /></td></tr>
<tr><td><br /></td><td><br /></td><td><br /></td><td>-></td><td>2016-01-19 23:01:42</td><td>d
goes to ER and nothing is wrong.. It's more her mental state. She
complains of being abused as in neglect not physical, but it's simply
not true..</td></tr>
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<span style="font-size: small;"><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">However the bank statements say something different. However we didn't get the bank statements until after Mike became their mother's conservator, because of the financial eldercare abuse by Sonya. And I didn't notice the Hawaii expenses, until preparing the material for posting on this blog.</span></span><br />
<span style="font-size: small;"><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">On January 13th she wrote -"</span></span><span style="font-size: small;"><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Hi
it's been fine I actually took advantage of my week with no one to care
for and took a fight to Hawaii where I came to my friends house where I
am sta</span></span><span style="font-size: small;"><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">ying I'll be returning on Saturday.. This trip has cost in total 600.00. </span></span><span style="font-size: small;"><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Free food and lodging .." Well free for Sonya because she was using her mother's money. Maybe <a href="http://anelderabuseobserved.blogspot.com/2018/05/february-2016-sonya-only-contributed.html" target="_blank">the token amount she was putting in</a> was the $600. I don't know. </span></span><br />
<span style="font-size: small;"><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Sonya, goes on a vacation to Hawaii while Carol was stuck in a cheap miserable place with no activities. It was just a place to sit and watch TV and wait to die, which I guess was what Sonya was waiting for. Sonya doesn't get that neglect IS ABUSE, in her January 19, 2016 text to her brother. </span></span>Marihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12378722789147387229noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3426093532473758392.post-83307795649769064732018-05-24T01:00:00.000-07:002018-05-24T06:51:00.759-07:00February 2016- Sonya only contributed a token amount<span style="font-size: small;"><span style="font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;">So take a look at the end of the February statement.</span></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;">In the short month of <a href="http://anelderabuseobserved.blogspot.com/2018/05/february-2016.html" target="_blank">February</a> Sonya managed to make 139 withdrawals and only one deposit. The withdrawals totaled up to $15,288.90, which the measly $663.00 that was contributed to the account, does not even begin to cover.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;">Here's a little something that is helpful to know. Carol (the mother and the victim of eldercare abuse by Sonya) has a very generous teacher's pension from <a href="https://www.calstrs.com/" target="_blank">CalSTRS,</a> that was about $3k a month. Back on <a href="http://anelderabuseobserved.blogspot.com/2018/05/dec2015-january-2016-take-party-to-new.html" target="_blank">December 28, 2015</a>, Sonya, for whatever reason, closed the account that CalSTRS was depositing funds into, moved the roughly $60K that was in there from Carol's retirement fund into a new account. CalSTRS takes at least one whole month to make direct deposit changes. So this month, as well as January and March, allow us to see what measly token amounts Sonya was depositing into her mother's account. For February it was about 4% of what was spent. As far as I could tell there was one charge and one check that actually went to the care of Carol. There was a February 3rd payment to Kaiser, Carol's health care provider/insurance for $345.00 (please go back to the February 2016 post, page 1) and check #104 for $3300 that was the monthly rent for Kirkwood Villa the elderly boarding house where Kaiser dumped Carol because she could not return to the 3 bedroom house she and Sonya were renting. Check #102 for $3850 was covering the rent for that house. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;">Sonya had told her brother Mike that she was supporting their mother with her work. Here we see it was all <a href="http://anelderabuseobserved.blogspot.com/2018/05/lies-lies-all-lies-sonay-lied-to-her.html" target="_blank">lies</a>. This was barely a fig leaf of support.</span><br />
<br />Marihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12378722789147387229noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3426093532473758392.post-66109834570029416522018-05-24T00:30:00.000-07:002018-05-24T00:30:10.379-07:00February 2016<span style="font-size: small;"><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">I liked the <a href="http://anelderabuseobserved.blogspot.com/2018/05/january-2016-sonya-goes-to-hawaii-with.html" target="_blank">Hawaii post</a>, where I focused on particular things in the <a href="http://anelderabuseobserved.blogspot.com/2018/05/january-2016-carols-money-sonyas.html" target="_blank">January 2016</a> statement, so I will do the same thing here. I will post February 2016's statement excerpts, then have some extra posts looking at particular aspects of that statement. So if someone wants to look at a particular page they can click on the image and a larger, readable image should pop up.</span></span><br />
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<span style="font-size: small;"><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">So if you're just joining <a href="https://anelderabuseobserved.blogspot.com/" target="_blank">Financial Eldercare Abuse Observed</a>, welcome. I'm your hostess Mari, the wife of Mike, who is the son of Carol/Carole who was a victim of financial elder abuse at the hands of her daughter, Sonya. Sonya was the POA (Power of Attorney) for her mother and in a little over a year managed to squander Carol's retirement fund. This blog is here to document this abuse, provide an outlet for my frustration with trying to clean up the mess Sonya made, and hopefully inform others who are going through the same thing with their family members. </span></span><br />
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<span style="font-size: small;"><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Sonya is in deep, deep denial about what she did. Like any family member accused of abuse of another family member they will deny it and as Sonya did with her brother Michael (Mike), try to gaslight their victims and other family members.</span></span><br />
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<span style="font-size: small;"><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"> </span></span>Marihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12378722789147387229noreply@blogger.com0San Jose, CA, USA37.3382082 -121.8863286000000136.933999199999995 -122.53177560000002 37.7424172 -121.24088160000001tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3426093532473758392.post-12882146672969499822018-05-23T18:12:00.000-07:002018-05-24T06:54:54.519-07:00Lies, lies all lies- Sonya lied to her brother about what was going onSo I dug up some text messages we managed to pull off Mike's phone.<br />
I have changed some information to protect other's privacy. All changes are in <b>Bold</b> .<br />
I'll come back to this later in another post to take apart the lies Sonya, who squandered her mother's retirement fund. Sorry for the format this is in.<br />
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<tr><td>2015-12-16 13:29:07</td><td>Hello Michael it's your sister, was wondering if you could please give me your mailing address again?</td><td><br /></td><td><br /></td></tr>
<tr><td><br /></td><td><br /></td><td><br /></td><td>-></td><td>2015-12-16 13:30:46</td><td>And I need your email address</td><td><br /></td><td><br /></td></tr>
<tr><td><br /></td><td><br /></td><td><br /></td><td><-</td><td>2015-12-16 13:31:11</td><td><br /></td><td><br /></td><td>Office 3<b>{SNIP}</b>, MD <b>(SNIP)</b></td></tr>
<tr><td><br /></td><td><br /></td><td><br /></td><td>-></td><td>2015-12-16 13:32:01</td><td>Ok this will be a good address to send your packages?</td><td><br /></td><td><br /></td></tr>
<tr><td><br /></td><td><br /></td><td><br /></td><td><-</td><td>2015-12-16 13:32:10</td><td><br /></td><td><br /></td><td>HOW are things going? I 'll call tonight. Love, Mike</td></tr>
<tr><td><br /></td><td><br /></td><td><br /></td><td>-></td><td>2015-12-16 13:32:10</td><td>And your email address</td><td><br /></td><td><br /></td></tr>
<tr><td><br /></td><td><br /></td><td><br /></td><td>-></td><td>2015-12-16 13:32:21</td><td>Pretty good</td><td><br /></td><td><br /></td></tr>
<tr><td><br /></td><td><br /></td><td><br /></td><td>-></td><td>2015-12-16 13:32:31</td><td>Can I please have your email address</td><td><br /></td><td><br /></td></tr>
<tr><td><br /></td><td><br /></td><td><br /></td><td><-</td><td>2015-12-16 13:32:38</td><td><br /></td><td><br /></td><td>m<b>{SNIP}</b>edu </td></tr>
<tr><td><br /></td><td><br /></td><td><br /></td><td>-></td><td>2015-12-16 13:33:49</td><td>Thank you</td><td><br /></td><td><br /></td></tr>
<tr><td><br /></td><td><br /></td><td><br /></td><td><-</td><td>2015-12-27 22:03:38</td><td><br /></td><td><br /></td><td>Merry Christmas. Love, Mike and <b>Mari</b>. </td></tr>
<tr><td><br /></td><td><br /></td><td><br /></td><td>-></td><td>2015-12-28 21:31:43</td><td>Sorry
we have been difficult to get a hold of. Merry Christmas... Everyone
was good and had a nice xmas, mom had fun and got some knitting supplies
and c</td><td><br /></td><td><br /></td></tr>
<tr><td><br /></td><td><br /></td><td><br /></td><td>-></td><td>2015-12-28 21:31:44</td><td>rafts
to paint a bird chime, a bird house, it's raw wool that you paint.. The
kids made out pretty good.. And of course received the traditional
kisses a</td><td><br /></td><td><br /></td></tr>
<tr><td><br /></td><td><br /></td><td><br /></td><td>-></td><td>2015-12-28 21:31:45</td><td>nd beef jersey</td><td><br /></td><td><br /></td></tr>
<tr><td><br /></td><td><br /></td><td><br /></td><td>-></td><td>2015-12-28 21:34:13</td><td>I
have made several attempts to mail the photo album out to you, but
every time I go I have an issue the last time I was there for an hour
looking hi and</td><td><br /></td><td><br /></td></tr>
<tr><td><br /></td><td><br /></td><td><br /></td><td>-></td><td>2015-12-28 21:34:15</td><td>lo for the specific pic you wanted which was you and <b>SNIP</b> and I can't
find it anywhere... I'm wondering if it happens to be in any of that
photo stuff </td><td><br /></td><td><br /></td></tr>
<tr><td><br /></td><td><br /></td><td><br /></td><td>-></td><td>2015-12-28 21:34:15</td><td>I sent you home with last time you were down in March</td><td><br /></td><td><br /></td></tr>
<tr><td><br /></td><td><br /></td><td><br /></td><td>-></td><td>2015-12-28 21:39:20</td><td>I also took mom to buy you and Marie a present and that went missin</td><td><br /></td><td><br /></td></tr>
<tr><td><br /></td><td><br /></td><td><br /></td><td>-></td><td>2015-12-28 21:39:21</td><td>g, come to find someone thought was there's and wore and threw in w</td><td><br /></td><td><br /></td></tr>
<tr><td><br /></td><td><br /></td><td><br /></td><td>-></td><td>2015-12-28 21:39:22</td><td>ash ... Went back to the store and gone. Didn't send every time bec</td><td><br /></td><td><br /></td></tr>
<tr><td><br /></td><td><br /></td><td><br /></td><td>-></td><td>2015-12-28 21:39:23</td><td>ause items were missing in the shipment. so hope you don't mind the</td><td><br /></td><td><br /></td></tr>
<tr><td><br /></td><td><br /></td><td><br /></td><td>-></td><td>2015-12-28 21:39:24</td><td>delay and the washed item, your photo album with the missing pic😔</td><td><br /></td><td><br /></td></tr>
<tr><td><br /></td><td><br /></td><td><br /></td><td>-></td><td>2015-12-28 21:39:25</td><td>sorry again.</td><td><br /></td><td><br /></td></tr>
<tr><td><br /></td><td><br /></td><td><br /></td><td>-></td><td>2015-12-28 21:41:00</td><td>Did you receive the amazing electronic by way of email card? It was sent to your email, from the kids and I?</td><td><br /></td><td><br /></td></tr>
<tr><td><br /></td><td><br /></td><td><br /></td><td><-</td><td>2015-12-31 15:48:12</td><td><br /></td><td><br /></td><td>Do you know why mom is in the ER. Love, Mike </td></tr>
<tr><td><br /></td><td><br /></td><td><br /></td><td><-</td><td>2015-12-31 16:33:30</td><td><br /></td><td><br /></td><td>Mom
has an appointment on Monday (January 4) at 8:30 am at the Kaiser
psychiatry office 19000 Homestead Rd, 2nd floor. Love, Mike </td></tr>
<tr><td><br /></td><td><br /></td><td><br /></td><td><-</td><td>2015-12-31 16:36:15</td><td><br /></td><td><br /></td><td>You can reach the psychiatry office at (408) 366-<b>{SNIP}</b>. I spoke with Thomas. Love, Mike </td></tr>
<tr><td><br /></td><td><br /></td><td><br /></td><td>-></td><td>2015-12-31 16:43:28</td><td>She
kept yelling mom mom mom over and over at 5 am I went into her room she
wasn't make sense so I called the ambulance they took her and said
there wasn</td><td><br /></td><td><br /></td></tr>
<tr><td><br /></td><td><br /></td><td><br /></td><td>-></td><td>2015-12-31 16:43:29</td><td>'t
anything they found to be wrong. She has been particularly clingy to me
doing childish things to get my attention... It's really taking its
toll, and </td><td><br /></td><td><br /></td></tr>
<tr><td><br /></td><td><br /></td><td><br /></td><td>-></td><td>2015-12-31 16:43:30</td><td>I believe it's time she has a higher level of care</td><td><br /></td><td><br /></td></tr>
<tr><td><br /></td><td><br /></td><td><br /></td><td><-</td><td>2015-12-31 16:51:27</td><td><br /></td><td><br /></td><td>I
agree. I don't think we can wait until April to move her. The
councilors at Kaiser are looking into housing options. I spoke with
Dino. He can be reached at (408) 59<b>{SNIP}</b>.</td></tr>
<tr><td><br /></td><td><br /></td><td><br /></td><td><-</td><td>2015-12-31 16:52:12</td><td><br /></td><td><br /></td><td>I can also fly out if I can be of some help. Love, Mike </td></tr>
<tr><td><br /></td><td><br /></td><td><br /></td><td>-></td><td>2015-12-31 16:52:16</td><td>Yes they are actually calling me shortly to discuss pricing and placement</td><td><br /></td><td><br /></td></tr>
<tr><td><br /></td><td><br /></td><td><br /></td><td>-></td><td>2015-12-31 16:53:18</td><td>I'm just worried about the possibility of spending near 10,000.00 a month in rent between this expensive house and her place</td><td><br /></td><td><br /></td></tr>
<tr><td><br /></td><td><br /></td><td><br /></td><td><-</td><td>2015-12-31 16:56:00</td><td><br /></td><td><br /></td><td>Didn't you already pay a year in advance?</td></tr>
<tr><td><br /></td><td><br /></td><td><br /></td><td>-></td><td>2015-12-31 16:57:00</td><td>No remember we only did 6 mo in advance. We've been paying since sept.</td><td><br /></td><td><br /></td></tr>
<tr><td><br /></td><td><br /></td><td><br /></td><td><-</td><td>2015-12-31 16:57:14</td><td><br /></td><td><br /></td><td>Perhaps the councilors can find somewhere for her outside of San Jose, like Gilroy.</td></tr>
<tr><td><br /></td><td><br /></td><td><br /></td><td>-></td><td>2015-12-31 16:57:48</td><td>Yes I will wait to talk with them before I start freaking out lol just kidding I'll be fine</td><td><br /></td><td><br /></td></tr>
<tr><td><br /></td><td><br /></td><td><br /></td><td>-></td><td>2015-12-31 16:58:03</td><td>I'm rolling with the punches and taking it day by day</td><td><br /></td><td><br /></td></tr>
<tr><td><br /></td><td><br /></td><td><br /></td><td><-</td><td>2015-12-31 17:00:40</td><td><br /></td><td><br /></td><td>You should talk to your landlord as soon as you can to discuss your options. You may not get your security deposit back.</td></tr>
<tr><td><br /></td><td><br /></td><td><br /></td><td>-></td><td>2015-12-31 17:05:44</td><td>I'll keep you posted</td><td><br /></td><td><br /></td></tr>
<tr><td><br /></td><td><br /></td><td><br /></td><td><-</td><td>2015-12-31 17:06:54</td><td><br /></td><td><br /></td><td>Thank you. Love, Mike </td></tr>
<tr><td><br /></td><td><br /></td><td><br /></td><td>-></td><td>2015-12-31 17:13:33</td><td>Thank you too. Love, Sonya</td><td><br /></td><td><br /></td></tr>
<tr><td><br /></td><td><br /></td><td><br /></td><td>-></td><td>2016-01-01 12:56:50</td><td>Happy New Michael and <b>Mari</b>! We love you both!
Update on mom
She is in a boarding home with a nurse on site to accommodate her insulin needs. The woma</td><td><br /></td><td><br /></td></tr>
<tr><td><br /></td><td><br /></td><td><br /></td><td>-></td><td>2016-01-01 12:56:51</td><td>n
who is in charge is Rose and she is very sweet and has really taken a
liking to mom. Mom seems to be very happy as well. So I am happy and
relieved al</td><td><br /></td><td><br /></td></tr>
<tr><td><br /></td><td><br /></td><td><br /></td><td>-></td><td>2016-01-01 12:56:52</td><td>l went well. Great start to the new year for us all.
The rent is also cheaper than the standard nursing homes because it is a private boarding home. It</td><td><br /></td><td><br /></td></tr>
<tr><td><br /></td><td><br /></td><td><br /></td><td>-></td><td>2016-01-01 12:56:53</td><td>is 3,300.00
I will send the number and address later today.</td><td><br /></td><td><br /></td></tr>
<tr><td><br /></td><td><br /></td><td><br /></td><td><-</td><td>2016-01-03 16:52:17</td><td><br /></td><td><br /></td><td>Thank you for the update. I'm glad you and mom are happy with it. Love, Mike </td></tr>
<tr><td><br /></td><td><br /></td><td><br /></td><td>-></td><td>2016-01-03 16:53:11</td><td>Your welcome and I was wondering if you'd consider helping on her rent like half of it</td><td><br /></td><td><br /></td></tr>
<tr><td><br /></td><td><br /></td><td><br /></td><td>-></td><td>2016-01-04 18:22:20</td><td>Here is her new address: 558 papac way, San Jose, ca 95117</td><td><br /></td><td><br /></td></tr>
<tr><td><br /></td><td><br /></td><td><br /></td><td>-></td><td>2016-01-04 18:23:35</td><td>408-243-4<b>SNIP</b> is her number</td><td><br /></td><td><br /></td></tr>
<tr><td><br /></td><td><br /></td><td><br /></td><td><-</td><td>2016-01-04 21:05:27</td><td><br /></td><td><br /></td><td>I would love to help but that would be more than half my pay and more than one of mortgage payments. Love, Mike </td></tr>
<tr><td><br /></td><td><br /></td><td><br /></td><td>-></td><td>2016-01-04 21:28:10</td><td>Ok
I understand and anything would help, I'm looking into medical for her
if she qualifies the place where she is could be potentially paid for</td><td><br /></td><td><br /></td></tr>
<tr><td><br /></td><td><br /></td><td><br /></td><td><-</td><td>2016-01-04 21:30:23</td><td><br /></td><td><br /></td><td>Great. Keep me updated. We can discuss how much I might be able to contribute. Love, Mike </td></tr>
<tr><td><br /></td><td><br /></td><td><br /></td><td>-></td><td>2016-01-04 21:30:53</td><td>Thank you</td><td><br /></td><td><br /></td></tr>
<tr><td><br /></td><td><br /></td><td><br /></td><td><-</td><td>2016-01-06 12:34:43</td><td><br /></td><td><br /></td><td>Just got a call from Rebecca, a social worker from the county who wants to talk to mom. She can reached at (408) 755-7<b>SNIP</b></td></tr>
<tr><td><br /></td><td><br /></td><td><br /></td><td><-</td><td>2016-01-11 21:04:56</td><td><br /></td><td><br /></td><td>How are you doing? What is it like not having mom in the house?</td></tr>
<tr><td><br /></td><td><br /></td><td><br /></td><td>-></td><td>2016-01-13 13:49:30</td><td>Hi
it's been fine I actually took advantage of my week with no one to care
for and took a fight to Hawaii where I came to my friends house where I
am sta</td><td><br /></td><td><br /></td></tr>
<tr><td><br /></td><td><br /></td><td><br /></td><td>-></td><td>2016-01-13 13:49:31</td><td>ying I'll be returning on Saturday.. This trip has cost in total 600.00</td><td><br /></td><td><br /></td></tr>
<tr><td><br /></td><td><br /></td><td><br /></td><td>-></td><td>2016-01-13 13:49:43</td><td>Free food and lodging ..</td><td><br /></td><td><br /></td></tr>
<tr><td><br /></td><td><br /></td><td><br /></td><td><-</td><td>2016-01-13 15:21:16</td><td><br /></td><td><br /></td><td>That's great. You really deserve that rest and relaxation. Have a great time. Love , Mike </td></tr>
<tr><td><br /></td><td><br /></td><td><br /></td><td>-></td><td>2016-01-13 15:55:09</td><td>Thanks
so much! I said wait a minute <b>N Kim</b> and <b>Mike1</b> are going to dads....
Mom's in her new place... K<b>ay</b>s back at school...??!? You mean I will
be by m</td><td><br /></td><td><br /></td></tr>
<tr><td><br /></td><td><br /></td><td><br /></td><td>-></td><td>2016-01-13 15:55:10</td><td>yself for a whole week??!!? I had to seize the moment!</td><td><br /></td><td><br /></td></tr>
<tr><td><br /></td><td><br /></td><td><br /></td><td>-></td><td>2016-01-19 22:57:39</td><td>Hi
mike I'm home and went to visit mom and she's crying that she's
miserable there... And wants to come home I think .. But where she is is
affordable an</td><td><br /></td><td><br /></td></tr>
<tr><td><br /></td><td><br /></td><td><br /></td><td>-></td><td>2016-01-19 22:57:40</td><td>d the woman is very nice... Mom is complaining of being bored and neglected.. Same thing she complained of at home with us</td><td><br /></td><td><br /></td></tr>
<tr><td><br /></td><td><br /></td><td><br /></td><td>-></td><td>2016-01-19 22:58:10</td><td>I believe it's not the people and the places... It's her situation, she's unhappy with.</td><td><br /></td><td><br /></td></tr>
<tr><td><br /></td><td><br /></td><td><br /></td><td>-></td><td>2016-01-19 23:01:41</td><td>She
being very difficult causing commotions and stirring up stuff... Crying
for attention like a child.. She acts as if she's got some medical
problem an</td><td><br /></td><td><br /></td></tr>
<tr><td><br /></td><td><br /></td><td><br /></td><td>-></td><td>2016-01-19 23:01:42</td><td>d
goes to ER and nothing is wrong.. It's more her mental state. She
complains of being abused as in neglect not physical, but it's simply
not true.. And </td><td><br /></td><td><br /></td></tr>
<tr><td><br /></td><td><br /></td><td><br /></td><td>-></td><td>2016-01-19 23:01:43</td><td>now she regrets going to this new place.. I just am not able to care for her... So I believe she should stay where she is</td><td><br /></td><td><br /></td></tr>
<tr><td><br /></td><td><br /></td><td><br /></td><td>-></td><td>2016-01-19 23:02:22</td><td>Anyway let's talk when your free Gd nite
Love Sonya</td><td><br /></td><td><br /></td></tr>
<tr><td><br /></td><td><br /></td><td><br /></td><td><-</td><td>2016-01-22 21:01:50</td><td><br /></td><td><br /></td><td>Hi Sonya. Thank you for the update. I'll call you tomorrow. We 'll be home waiting out the snow storm. Love, Mike </td></tr>
<tr><td><br /></td><td><br /></td><td><br /></td><td><-</td><td>2016-01-27 22:42:40</td><td><br /></td><td><br /></td><td>Hi Sonya. Would tomorrow night be a good time to call? Love, Mike </td></tr>
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<br />Marihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12378722789147387229noreply@blogger.com0San Jose, CA, USA37.3382082 -121.8863286000000136.933999199999995 -122.53177560000002 37.7424172 -121.24088160000001tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3426093532473758392.post-72067310077176900852018-05-23T16:10:00.000-07:002018-05-23T16:55:18.086-07:00January 2016- Sonya goes to Hawaii with Carol's money!<span style="font-family: "helvetica neue" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;">Sonya, the POA for Carol, her adoptive mother, took a little trip to the island state of Hawaii in January 2016. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "helvetica neue" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;">Why not? </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "helvetica neue" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;">Carol was either in the hospital or rotting in Kirkwood Villa, which I called old people prison. Apparently Sonya's two minor children were with their biological father, maybe. We have no clue, because that situation is so messed up, I don't even want to bother. Maybe she went with her loser boyfriend, maybe not, I don't know. When you're 3000 miles away and the family member in question only calls to yell at you, and lie to you (didn't find that out until later) you really don't know what is actually going on. So, Sonya took a little vacation, but she did not take a vacation from financially abusing her mother.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "helvetica neue" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;">I'll take a guess that the January 12th Hawaiian Ticket is a luggage fee, I have no idea. But I did notice 3375 Koapaka Street appears again on January 13th, but instead of saying San Jose it is for Honolulu, HI. I should note that Carol did not go to Hawaii. Anyway, maybe Sonya might have realized there would be a paper trail or she didn't want to use Carol's debit card in Hawaii, so on the 13th she took out $1000 of spending money at 200 Hamakua Drive, in Hawaii. Clever, we'll never catch on.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "helvetica neue" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;">From what I can tell she was still in Hawaii on the 18th, maybe. On the 16th she spent $44.64 at Pho My. Who makes up these restaurant names? What did she run out of the $1000 she withdrew on the 13th? Considering Sonya's spending habits, that could be a possibility. On the 18th there is that Hawaiian Ticket, this time for $60, and Lahaina Chicken for $18.51 This is followed by an iTunes charge. Gotta have some tunes or a cool app for the plane ride back to San Jose, CA and stealing more of your mother's money.</span> <br />
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<br />Marihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12378722789147387229noreply@blogger.com0Honolulu, HI, USA21.3069444 -157.8583333000000321.0702859 -158.18105680000002 21.5436029 -157.53560980000003tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3426093532473758392.post-47302096312196690902018-05-23T15:05:00.000-07:002018-05-23T16:54:57.690-07:00January 2016- Carol's Money, Sonya's spending.<span style="font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;">As the person with Power of Attorney (POA) Sonya was <a href="http://anelderabuseobserved.blogspot.com/2018/03/april-2015-what-not-to-do-as-elderly.html" target="_blank">supposed</a> to administer her mother Carol's funds for the care of Carol. Instead, Sonya squandered her mother's retirement funds, which ultimately left Carol alone and destitute. Sonya and Carol lived together from April to December 2015 and <a href="http://anelderabuseobserved.blogspot.com/2018/03/march-2015-lets-statrt-spending-part-1.html" target="_blank">from the start Sonya began spending her mother's money</a> as if it were her own, and as if it were lottery winnings. </span><br />
<span style="font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;">I have documented what happened with Carol's account in 2015 to show how her pension and retirement funds were taken and spent. I also pointed out charges to debit card associated with the account that were obviously not for the care and well being of Carol. I can almost hear Sonya's excuses that she contributed to the account, that she gave up her career, and that it was really her account. Yes, Sonya contributed but her contributions were token amounts. It was akin to going out to eat where Carol paid for the meal and Sonya covered the tip. The career Sonya gave up was going from chair to chair as a cosmetologist. According to her brother, he doesn't think Sonya has worked at any one salon for longer than a year. She proposed opening up her own shop, with her mother's money of course. Considering Sonya's instability, that probably would have failed.</span><br />
<span style="font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;">The year 2016 brings something new. Because they were living together in 2015, one could claim that most of the spending was for the benefit of Carol. In 2016 there can be no such claims. At the end of December 2015 Carol was in the hospital and then Kaiser put her in the cheapest elderly housing for someone in Carol's condition, <a href="https://www.seniorcareauthority.com/assisted-living/kirkwood-villa-in-san-jose-california.html" target="_blank">Kirkwood Villa</a>, at $3300 a month. So almost all the spending seen below is Sonya spending away her mother's retirement fund and making Carol destitute.</span><br />
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<br />Marihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12378722789147387229noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3426093532473758392.post-48677230794016412092018-05-22T19:17:00.000-07:002018-05-22T19:17:12.538-07:00Dec2015-January 2016- Take the party to a new room, same venue<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">It's the end of December 2015. Carol, the mother/elder care victim, has run away from her abusive daughter Sonya, but the abuse goes on. We see in the image that Sonya has transferred $68,166.79 from one account into another, new account on the 28th. I do believe at this time Carol was in a Kaiser Hospital. So in some way this acknowledges a change. But in other ways Sonya just keeps spending her mother's retirement fund like it is her own personal piggy bank. She took $93.86 from a small account and put the money in this new account. As well as $25 from another tiny savings account. </span><br />
<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">It should be safe to say, the $663.98 of withdrawals, is spending Sonya did for Sonya, with Carol's money.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"> </span>Marihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12378722789147387229noreply@blogger.com0San Jose, CA, USA37.3382082 -121.8863286000000136.933999199999995 -122.53177560000002 37.7424172 -121.24088160000001tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3426093532473758392.post-13130054628750225122018-05-22T17:00:00.000-07:002018-05-22T17:00:14.641-07:00December 2015 - The party is almost overDecember 2015 was the last month Carol (the victim/ retiree) lived with her daughter Sonya. Either in November or December Carol called Mike, her son on the other side of the country in Washington, DC and asked to be taken out of there. Unfortunately, Mike had no clue what to do and believed his sister Sonya's side of the story. In November Sonya began (or I just started noticing) using her mother's money to by 'medicinal' weed. If that wasn't bad enough she moved in a loser boyfriend into the home Sonya rented (with Carol's money) who as far I we know did not contribute anything to the household. So now Carol was supporting two parasites.<br />
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At the end of the month, around Christmas, Carol escaped. For a while I imagined Carol out there with her walker slowly moving away from the suburban area out to the main road and flagging down help. But it seems she may have called 911 and got a ride to a Kaiser hospital. And it was there at the hospital she gave the staff a clue that she was being abused. That's when <a href="https://www.sccgov.org/sites/ssa/daas/aps/Pages/aps.aspx" target="_blank">Santa Clara County Adult Protective Services</a> people got involved. Another thing happened at the end of the month, Sonya closed this bank account and started a new account. There is a December 28th withdrawal of $68,166.79, and that went into a new account under Carol's last name. Why? Tis a mystery.<br />
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So below are parts of the December 2015 band statement. If you want to see a clearer picture, click on the images. After each section I will write about a few particular purchases that I've highlighted. In December it becomes clearer that Sonya was just spending her mother's money like she won the lottery. She's spending money on pot, cash withdrawals and trips.<br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;">So we get a regular deposit from Carol's teacher's pension on the 1st of $3084. For most of this saga, it's been Carol's money, Carol's pension, Carol's retirement fund that has been fueling the party Sonya has been attending and orchestrating. Of all the purchases on this page, I just highlighted the one thing that was definitely for Carol, the December 2nd charge from the Kaiser Pharmacy.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;">On the 4th Sonya takes out $300. Why? Who knows. Also that same day there is a charge from Guitar Wars, a musical instrument store in San Jose. Carol does not play an instrument. Carol has Parkinson's. I will guess that it was for one of Sonya's kids Mike1 or N Kim</span>.</div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;">Sonya was supposed to be the caretaker of Carol. Instead she abused her mother. Carol had to stop smoking, sometime in the 90s because she had to have some sort of heart surgery... because of smoking. Apparently she and her 1st husband smoked like chimneys. Mike, their son, has this huge hatred for smoking because of it. Their daughter, obviously, not so much. On the 8th, Sonya got something from Discount Cigarettes. I can only hope she did not smoke in the house or around Carol or either of the minor children. </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;">Once again, on the 8th, she buying more from s cigarette shop, this time it's at Up In Smoke.</span> </div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">It looks like somebody has taken up the guitar or some musical instrument. I wonder which kid? Mike1 or N Kim? Well one thing I know, that $542.16 to Guitar Center on the 10th, was not for Carol's care. This is followed with another charge to a music place, The Starving Musician, on the 11th.</span> </div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">December 13th, Sonya buys more cigarettes, I guess.</span> </div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;">Seriously, this woman, Sonya, seems to have a smoking problem. How many days have passed since she was last at someplace that sold cigarettes? Or is she buying smokes for her loser boyfriend too? </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;">Okay, I highlighted a lot here. On the 16th there is a purchase from a beauty supply store. I will have to guess that's Sonya buying for work, as she's a hair stylist. Nothing to do with Carol's care. Then that same day there are other purchases from Amazon. I love Amazon. We've bought things for Carol from Amazon, but they were purchased with our own money. That we earned. From working. I have my doubts that the December 17th purchase from iTunes was for Carol.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;">I find the two purchases from Spy-Fly and Been Verified funny. Who is she looking for or in on? Is Sonya (with Parkinson's and other health issues, Carol is not doing this) trying to find something on her ex/ baby daddy? Maybe Sonya was looking up dirt on her loser boyfriend, to see how much of a loser he was?</span> </div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;">On the 17th, a refund from Amazon. Don't know what Sonya is playing at, what's the scam? On that same date a $204.19 charge from T-Mobile for a phone Carol does not use. On the 18th there is a strange charge from Snapraise, some fund raising site. What's the scam?</span> </div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;">December 19th we've got several charges. The Amazon charge, I don't remember why I highlighted that. South Bay Healing is for pot, mary jane, weed. On her mamma's dime. This is followed by a purchase from Up In Smoke on the 21st.</span> </div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Ah the end. But before that, let's look at some end of the month purchases. December 23rd is for a Hotel booking. Sometime in 2016 Sonya runs off to Hawaii, maybe she was booking her hotel. Who knows? What I do know, this hotel was not for Carol. Anyway, that hotel booking is cancelled, so no more harm? I also doubt those withdrawals of $232.40, $500 and $380 were for Carol either.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Please point your attention to the big withdrawal on the 28th of $68166.79. Sonya moved that money to a brand new account. In that account we'll see more of the same crazy spending. But this time there is no pretense, no pretending that she's doing this for Carol, because in 2016 Carol doesn't live with Sonya anymore. We know that she isn't driving around in that vehicle she's leasing taking Carol to doctor's appointments. We know she isn't taking Carol to fast food joints, or buying groceries for Carol, because Carol doesn't live with Sonya anymore. In 2016 whatever is spent from the account, short of the $3300 a month to the old folks' boarding house, where Kaiser dumps Carol, that money is being spent on Sonya for Sonya.</span> </div>
<br />Marihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12378722789147387229noreply@blogger.com0San Jose, CA, USA37.3382082 -121.8863286000000136.933999199999995 -122.53177560000002 37.7424172 -121.24088160000001tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3426093532473758392.post-1938610069036956172018-05-21T17:00:00.000-07:002018-05-21T17:00:14.011-07:00November 2015So I finally admitted to my husband the existence of this blog. I explained my reasons why I started it, that it was a way to vent.<br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: small;">Nov 2nd, TMS Healthy Solutions. Carol is a member of Kaiser which is big in California. It's pretty much one stop health care, so anything outside of that I do wonder about. </span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;">Nov 5th. Why is United Healthcare still getting money? Carol is a Kaiser Perm member. Then there is the Nov 6th charge to Up In Smoke. Did I mention that Carol no longer smoked due to a heart ailment? Yeah, she stopped smoking because it nearly killed her. But her "caretaker" Sonya is using Carol's money to light up.</span> </div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Nov 9th, another charge from Up In Smoke!</span> </div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">This one has Sonya, and I can't see it being Carol doing this, considering Carol doesn't drive and is in ill health, eating out on her mother's dime. Sonya's also getting high on her mother's dime as well. I looked up the November 11th charge of South Bay Healing Center.... that's a marijuana dispensary. Then there are the other smoke shops...</span> </div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Nov 12 has Mercury Insurance, to pay for the insurance for a vehicle Carol doesn't drive. Nov 13th, another smoke shop. Once again, Carol, whom this account is supposed to serve, does not smoke and it is irresponsible to be smoking anywhere near Carol.</span> </div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">November 14th more smoke shop spending. Nov 14th Sonya spends $329.86 of her mother's money to pay for a hotel. Also notice in this section Sonya is withdrawing lots of cash, from ATMS that are "Out of Network", so not only is she misspending, she's being very wasteful. Well, when it's not your hard earned money, I guess this is what you do.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Okay at this point I started highlighting the things I wanted to point out. The theme of the above, two Nov 16th purchases from smoke shops. Carol, doesn't smoke. If Sonya smoked around Carol she was putting her mother's life at risk. It was babd enough she was using her mother's money to support her bad habit.</span> </div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Alright the theme of the above is out of network fees. Once upon a time my city councilman was found guilty of stealing $300K from a fund that was supposed to help children. A local news blog published the bank statement showing him spending money on all sorts of things, including meals at Hooters. The thing that really bugged me when I saw the statement were all the $2-$5 out of network cash withdrawals. Same thing here, Sonya was pissing away her mother's money like there was no tomorrow.</span> </div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">We don't have cable. Nov 21st there is a Comcast bill of $225.56. Maybe a bundled plan? I guess you park the old woman (Carol) in front of the boob tube while you spend down her retirement fund? </span> </div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Highlights show spending on weed, ciggys and stupid out of network fees.</span> </div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">More smokes on Nov 26. All this spending on cigarettes in one month is super crazy. </span> </div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;">Ah finally the end. I highlighted this deposit from <a href="https://www.calstrs.com/" target="_blank">CalSters</a>, which seemed unusually small. It was one of two deposits (the other likely $100 from Pershing, Carol's investment account that Sonya gutted) and looks like Sonya didn't even add a token amount like she usually does. The check #2427 for $3850 is for the rent for a 3 bedroom house Sonya rented (using Carol's money). Why 3 bedrooms? Well the extra bedrooms were for the 2 kids she DID NOT have custody of, but we thought she did.</span></div>
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